The Opposite to Sex
Sex, gender, and sexuality are very common words used in our current society. However, we intertwine the meaning of each word and mistakenly use each one of them. In other words, we tend to think they are all the same. But, Eve Kosofsky Sedgwick clarifies this in her book. Sex is a biological differentiation between individuals who have the chromosomes XX and those who have the XY chromosome and their respective genital organs (Sedgwick 2570). So what we call sex is just “chromosomal sex.” On the other hand, gender is a socially constructed (Sedgwick 2751). It is a set of cultural beliefs that we stick to chromosomal sex. Meanwhile, sexuality has to do with identification, genital sensations, and practice that we do for pleasure and/or reproduction (Sedgwick 2752). Society has tough us that female/male gender formation over sex are opposites but this is not actually true. The only opposite relationship among these terms is between sex and sexuality.
Due to our misuse of the terms, the relationship between “sex” and “gender” is misinterpreted. There is not opposite relation between chromosomal sex and gender. To be more accurate, chromosomal sex is the raw material in which gender is constructed. As Sedgwick explains, gender elaborates a concept of contradiction between the individuals with XX chromosomes and XY chromosomes. But although they are distinctive, there are no characteristics that suggest a contradiction. The belief that male and female are opposites only exist within the confines of t gender concept and it is used to control the power socioeconomic status of individuals in society. For instance, Sedgwick says, “the purpose of that strategy has been to gain analytic and critical leverage on the female-disadvantaging social arrangements that prevail in a given time in a given society.” In other words, male and female are not opposites. It is just a belief within gender to control female’s status in society. With this said, let’s look at the only contradictive relationship stated by Sedgwick.
Sexuality is the very opposite of what we call chromosomal sex. Sedgwick states that sexuality “could occupy, instead, even more than ‘gender’ the polar of the relational….” (2472). Our species, like most species in this planet, come in two sexes. Sex allows the reproduction of the species. On the other hand, sexuality has to do with how we experiences pleasure through genital formation with whom we decided to do this with. While sex is the most predetermined, physically rooted, and innate while sexuality is the most aleatory, symbolically infused, and learned (Sedgwick 2472). In addition, there are only two sexes and it is already predetermined. Nevertheless, sexuality is a matter of choice and identity, and there are many different kinds of sexuality. Now let’s look at the relationship between gender and sexuality.
If gender does not have a reciprocal relationship with sex unlike sexuality, then what is the relationship of gender to these concepts? Gender is socially constructed to control us and prevent a direct connection between sex and sexuality. Sedgwick says “gender is definitionally built into determinations of sexuality, in a way that neither of them is intertwined with…” (Sedgwick 2473). In other words, that gender is limiting our thinking to just male/female and heterosexual/homosexual concepts of sexuality. But, it does not allow us to think about other types of sexuality. That is why we tend to not grasp the concept of alloerotic. We can also see that gender tries to enclose different types of sexuality within its confines. For instance, we see terms such as female masculinity or make femininity in references to Judith Halberstam’s “The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly.”


